I am a terrible friend. I mean it. I forget birthdays. I'm self-absorbed. I don't respond in a timely manner to phone calls, texts, or emails. I promise to never lose touch, and then, indeed, I lose touch. Terrible friend.
Last night at a holiday party, I ran into a former co-worker/friend whom I hadn't seen in two years or more. As we caught up on life- jobs changes, weddings, work gossip- I felt so guilty for ever losing touch in the first place. Sometimes life just gets in the way of things. But this friend was talking about how everything happens for a reason, and I can't help but agree.
My entire life has been a series of happy accidents and serendipitous events of happenstance. If I had never moved to a new high school I would have never met the love of my life. I would have never gotten a crappy job at a CVS in my college town, which turned into an ever crappier pharmacy job in another town, which turned into an awesome pharmacy job. That awesome pharmacy job led to my current teaching job (a LONG story for another day). At this job I met my dearest and bestest friend. And even though I haven't seen her in weeks because of our crazy schedules, I know I'm going to be a life-long friend. I'm going to return calls and remember birthdays.
Because things don't just happen, they happen for a reason.