Tuesday, March 20, 2012

You Can't Wear That!


Someone once gave me advice. Things like "Don't buy a white bedspread." And "You will hate bangs. You won't be able to style them." And "Maxi dresses don't look good on you. You're too short and wide." This was someone giving advice out of love, not being mean, but it's funny how things sound when falling on insecure ears. I spent years believing these "truths." I hid in frumpy, baggy clothes. I didn't trust or love what I saw when I looked in the mirror.




Then I met my soul sister. It wasn't exactly love at first sight, but I was certainly intrigued. We met at new teacher orientation, and I remember looking across the conference table at this "girl" with bright red hair and some kooky outfit and thought, "There's no way this chick is a teacher." She said she thought I was a "know-it-all." From all outside appearances it wouldn't seem like the beginnings of a soul sister-type relationship, but this was a predestined friendship.


She gave me something I had never gotten from a friendship- complete support and acceptance. Through her eyes, I saw a very different Katie. Someone with beautiful curves and amazing hair and a perfect heart-shaped face. She gave me confidence that I never had on my own. Somebody once said I shouldn't wear maxi dresses because I am short and wide. I may be, but now when I look at pictures like the one below, I see awesome womanly curves in a great dress. And that's what friends can do for you!





45 comments:

Katie said...

yeah for such a good friend that gave you good advice! : ) I love this dress and with that necklace too!! beautiful Katie!

Annie said...

Aw that's so sweet! And you look SO pretty in that dress - another awesome print :)

Annie
The Other Side of Gray

Cassie said...

What a great friend ;) The bright green is amazing on you! I love everything about this from the print on the dress to the jewelry (SO cute!) and of course, the CURVES!

Thetinyheart said...

You always have the prettiest dresses, Katie! I myself actually stay away from maxi dresses because I'm so short but you've convinced me that those rules are silly!

-Sharon
The Tiny Heart

Channon said...

I added you to my reader a while ago, but I have to chime in... One of my dearest friends is a woman with whom I have "nothing in common", but for some reason, while working together in a non-profit we both love, we bonded. She's tall, the daughter of a former model and is ALWAYS stunning, with her own sense of style. What I value most about her is that she REFUSED to let me speak ill of my appearance, even though a couple of health issues had me looking ... not my best. She insisted I was beautiful, praised my hourglass figure, and ironically, empowered me to reclaim my health.

I love your blog, and by golly... I'm going to buy a maxi or two! (And scour the local WalMarts for the dress you blogged yesterday.)

QueenDiva said...

I have a friend like that... she hates fashion, shopping... makeup... pretty much everything my blog is about and what I enjoy most. But she is a true friend and is there for me completely and she constantly pushes me to live my dream. That being said... I'm glad you have such a friend because you look AMAZING... i just found your blog this morning but I have to say... it will not be my last visit :)
http://divaindeepthought.blogspot.com

tashia graham said...

You look fantastic! I love friends that help you find your inner strength. They really are one in a million.

http://hipsandhangers.blogspot.com/

Carrie said...

Love the pretty colors and bold print of that dress! You look statuesque and goddess-like. :) And yay for friends who help you realize your best self! :)

amy said...

I'm wearing a long old navy maxi dress today, too! You look gorgeous. :)

Shannon Fox said...

Can't show my hubby... he'd leave me for ya ;) You're a darling girl. With true beauty and spirit. The dress looks every bit as cute on you as it would on anyone else. You're rocking it =)

Jeri patton said...

Hi Katie! I'm so happy I found your blog! I need someone to show me some style!! I could rock a paint brush like nobodies business but can't pick out a cute outfit to save my life! This is why I live in leggings and sweats. You are GORGEOUS and I love your outfits!!
xoxo
Jeri

Marie_McGrath said...

What a beautiful post. I'm so glad you found someone that boosted your confidence and made you see just how beautiful you are. You look absolutely stunning in this maxi dress. I think you are drop dead gorgeous just the way you are.

www.thejoyoffashion.blogspot.com

Keesha said...

I love this message! You look awesome in this dress! The colors and the shape are so flattering :)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you, Keesha! I feel awesome in it :)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Wow! I am totally blushing! Thank you so much! I feel very lucky!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Well, I'm so glad you found the blog too! Yay! Thank you so much for the compliments- made my day :) Although I admit I'm a little jealous if you can paint! That's something I totally wish I could do!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Wow! I don't even know where to begin! Thank you, thank you, thank you! What a super comment! I am smiling super big right now!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you, Amy! I love a maxi dress- especially Old Navy's, super soft and fairly cheap!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I think I am going to live in this dress from now one- statuesque and goddess-like?! Holy cow! I feel like a beauty queen!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

You are so right. Friends like that should be cherished :)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

That constant pushing towards your dream is SOOOO important in a friend. And I am thrilled that you found me (and that you'll be back!) Going to check yours out right now!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

That is a true friend! My BFF is constantly telling me how beautiful I am in a completely sincere way. It is definitely empowering to have a friend like that. Thanks so much for commenting (and such a great thoughtful comment). Good luck with the dress shopping :)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Too many pretty dresses! ;) I NEED to see you in a maxi dress pronto! I bet it makes you look taller! I think they are super flattering on everyone!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you, Cassie!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thanks, Annie! I guess I need some more paisley in my life!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you!!

Skinnyhipster said...

What one of fav things to wear during spring/summer are maxi, one can never go wrong

Maria Isabel Gridley said...

wow I think you look amazing! I just found you (while checking the archives of momma go round) and had to come check your blog out! What an inspiration you are! I adore your style and confidence! You rock!!

~Maria-Isabel
www.agapelovedesigns.com

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Yay for Nina and Momma Go Round! I love her, and I am so happy you came over to check out my blog! Thank you so much for your kind words!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Agreed!

Serene said...

I love this! What a lovely tribute to a sweet friend! You are radiant in this maxi dress! ~Serene

Trees said...

This post makes me so happy!! I have been told my whole life I shouldn't wear things (for much the same reasons as you have been). I am slowly coming to terms with the way I look and accepting there are no "rules" and I should wear whatever makes me feel fabulous. Sounds like you have been on a similar journey. Also your friends sounds amazing!!

Katha Strophe said...

I love your story, it's amazing that your friend helped you overcome your insecurities!
Such a beautiful post!

Catherine said...

You look amazing. I always say rules are made to be broken.

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you, Catherine. You are right- rules are DEFINITELY made to be broken!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you so much! I appreciate your comment!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

You understand what so many people don't- how you FEEL is the most important. Even if you are 'breaking rules", if you feel good then you look good!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you so much!!

MelD said...

Yep, short and wide - check!
I, too, took a looong time (longer than you, I'm older!) to go against "rules" lovingly given but taken too much to heart. Well done for being brave!!
Also, I'd like to say your beautiful skin makes it all the nicer to see your curves shown off here in such a pretty dress in such gorgeous colours ;)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I think I'm in love with you! Thank you for all the kind comments!

Jo said...

Wow. Was pointed your way from Already Pretty ... and these photos blew me away. Totally made me feel like there was hope for me yet. :)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you so much, Jo! I really appreciate your kind words!

Book-donna said...

Add me as another who came your way via Already Pretty. I think we have almost the exact same body shape, although like some other posters I am a lot older than you are... but your photos are so inspiring! Thank you so much. I NEED A MAXI DRESS!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Well, I am thrilled that you hopped over- thank you so much! I really do appreciate it so much. And thank you for saying that my photos are inspirational. That means so much to me. Now go buy a maxi dress! Now :)

Harbargerm said...

You know I really have to say wow and thank you for your blog! Im curvy and have always been so self concious! I have dieted till i was blue in the face but I love food to much! Thanks to your tips I feel like I can shop with a new eye and begin to except myself, curves and all!

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