Friday, May 18, 2012

Being Anonymous

Sometimes I really wish I had started my blog anonymously. Lately there's been a lot of flack about "fakeness" in the blogosphere, and while I don't think I am the least bit fake, the fact that this is a public blog prevents me from being completely transparent at all times. How I wish I could anonymously tell you about the hell that was this week:

Linen Drawstring Pants- NewYork and Co. (On Sale)
Mixed-Media Lace Trim Top- Lauren Conrad for Kohl's (similar-New York and Co)


The parent meeting
The meeting with my former alma mater about my certification
a school prank gone wrong

How I would like to criticize and armchair quarterback about the way things "should have been done." How I would love to tell you what was said that made me madder than I've ever been in four years of teaching. How I would love to tell you how completely inept the university which granted my Masters degree is. How I would love to rant and rail.



But I can't. Well, I could, but the repercussions would be severe. I hope this doesn't seem cryptic. I hate cryptic and vague. I could pretend everything was great and talk about how much I love my new pants, but that would be disingenuous. So I tell you what I can. I am tired. I am fed up. I am angry.




"I like being famous when it's convenient for me and completely anonymous when it's not."
----Catherine Deneuve



32 comments:

Alice said...

I often regret not have an anonymous blog, but at the same time I really like the feeling that I am connecting with people in my posts, which I don't think I would get quite so much if my face wasn't out there. When you want to have a good rant though, yeah it is pretty frustrating. I hope the weekend brings some better times. Oh, and I love the lace detail on your top xo

Always Maylee said...

Aw Katie! I hope you feel better and get in some good R&R this weekend, it's ok to feel the way you do! And also, I'm loving this casual look on you. :)

xo, Yi-chia

Sharon S said...

Whatever it is that you're going through, I hope it gets resolved and works out in the end, Katie.

Sometimes I also wish I had an anonymous blog so there was no topic off limits! Two relatives just discovered my blog so now I have to censor myself even more.

-Sharon
Enter my Giveaway!

tashia graham said...

Sorry you had a bad week! *hugs* Here's hoping your weekend is drama free and relaxing.

Jo said...

Sorry you had a bad week .... and hopefully, your weekend will be better. I understand about the desire to blog anonymously --- I went the semi-anonymous route and used a nickname on mine. And, I didn't tell anyone in my family that I blog (I mostly post book reviews, but on occasion, delve into the personal). However, I still hesitate about putting certain things on my blog.

Again, hope your Friday is ok, and your weekend is even better. :)

lovelovefashion said...

this is so co-incidental! this must be global crappy week!- i normally love blogs- yours being one of my faves! but because of my utterly rubbish week i was too tired to look or comment which made me think of you who blog and how life affects you- i know when i can't be bothered i don't even want to speak- anyhow. i don't subscribe to negativity, but i realise it must be difficult for you as you have a 'face'- good luck, things will look up and cake is lovely (i have had cake all week!) x

Caties Corner said...

Aww, sounds like your week was really terrible! Sorry to hear that. Wishing you an awesome weekend full of fun!! And no drama, I hate drama! =)

~ Catie

Kristin said...

Yuck! What a nasty week you've had! Feel free to vent to me :)

Carrie said...

:( Hang in there, Katie! I hope everything works itself out in the end. I know you are persistent, smart and resourceful enough to do what's needed.
Anonymity is definitely alluring - that's part of the reason why I didn't show my face on the blog until recently!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Things will always work out. I just stress too much about everything!! I didn't even think about being anonymous until after I started posting and I immediately kicked myself mentally. I see the pros and cons for both ways, but I can't have it both ways. Drats!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thanks, I might just take you up on that!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

It was! Thanks so much for the weekend wishes. I am going to work on my guest post for you, maybe take a nap- drama free zone over here!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Cake sounds like a great idea! It's tough because I want to just lay it out and complain to my friends (you gals), but it's not picking up the phone and calling you. I have to worry about principals and students and parents. I'm glad you commented. I always look forward to hearing from you. And I hope your week has gotten better too!!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Yeah, telling my family was the first problem! I have a super nosy in-law who stalks my life I swear!

Thank you so much, Jo!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I needed a hug! So far is 9:12 Saturday AM and there has been no drama! So that's good :)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Relatives knowing about the blog is the absolute worst, I swear! Things are resolving, and I have come out on top of all of it- it's just stressful when you are going through it!

Thank you so much for being here for me!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thanks, Yi-chia! Things are definitely looking up already!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I definitely see both sides of this fence. I love my blog and you are right having a face and seeing family members and such definitely connects you to a blogger. But man I wanted to go off in today's post and I knew I couldn't. Maybe I need to look at it in a positive way. It's like insurance to make sure I don't write anything I'll regret later!

vogue_or_bust said...

I can totally understand, it's frustrating when you can't entirely vent on something that feels like a diary. I'm so sorry that you've been going through a rough patch this past week but I'm sure everything will pan out - things always do. Sending you heaps of good thoughts :)

Alexandra xo

http://tovogueorbust.com/

Miss K said...

I feel you! I live and teach in a town of 450 people. Everyone knows each other and is related to everyone else in some way. I'm the 'outsider' and I can't vent about ANYTHING to anyone without fear of offending somebody or word getting back to the person I was venting about. These were my first two years of teaching and living two states away from my family too! So, I guess the good thing was that I could talk to my friends and family back home without fear, but because they live in 'civilization' they didn't quite understand the level of my frustration.

I do hope that you have someone, or several people, close to you with whom you can vent. It really helps!

And I hope things get better soon.

Grace said...

These pictures are so pretty of you. I love this comfy yet chic look.

A Southern Drawl

T. said...

Nice outfit!

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Annie said...

Sorry to hear you had such a rough week Katie - that sucks. But your new pants do look pretty fabulous :)

Annie
The Other Side of Gray

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thanks, Annie! I had a good weekend, and this is the LAST week of school, so there's an end (well, a break) in sight!

I may love these pants more than my boyfriend jeans. That's saying a lot!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thanks!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you, Grace! I really get called chic, so now I feel all sophisticated!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

WOW! And I thought I was teaching in a small town! It sounds exactly like you are talking about my city and school, but I can't imagine fewer than 500 people. I bet you can't pass gas without the whole town knowing! Sorry that was crude!

It's essential to have someone to vent to- so we are both lucky!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thanks, Alexandra! Things are definitely looking up- this is the last week of school! I can do it! Hope all is well for you too!!

Jessica said...

I can definitely resonate with this post - while I enjoy connecting with my blog readers and fellow bloggers on a personal level, as a graduate student, I can't tell anyone at work about my blog, and fear the day my boss finds out... people in my biomedical research PhD program, do not think kindly on frivolous fashion blogs! Good luck finding the anonymous outlet you seek
xx

jugglingchic said...

This looks great on you!!! Have a great last week of school!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

This is exactly how I feel. Today nothing is private, and I don't want to lose my job or anything like that. I like that you realize boundaries are important in writing and I like your issue/solution,

Eileen Ward said...

I have the same issue with my blog. I can't talk about people and experiences I'd like to because I don't want it to come back and bite me in the ass. I feel like I'm constantly playing a juggling game as it is not insulting people. My blog isn't a forum for me to go to and release in writing anymore because I feel like I need to write about an issue but also a solution. It has to have an end to it, which means that I don't write about a lot of things that are just sitting in my brain....
I love your outfit, and you look fabulous!

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