Apparently her main beef (ha!) is that society as a whole mistreats skinny women and verbally abuses them while fat women are embraced and exonerated. According to the blogger, we will often tell a skinny girl that she is "too thin and needs to eat a cheeseburger", but we never tell fat women that they are "too fat and shouldn't eat anything." Now this may be hard to believe, but once upon a time I was a skinny girl- my step father used to call me Toothpick in fact. Did it hurt my feelings and my self-esteem? Sure, okay. I remember during my toothpick days getting sent home from school because my shorts were too short. I remember my mother fuming that if I was fat no one would have said anything, but because I had a cute little figure I was being picked on. Poor, bullied skinny girl marginalized and punished for being thin. You know what hurt worse? My first summer home from college when I overheard my grandfather say "Damn, Katie sure has gotten fat." And when I say overheard, I mean he said it while I was sitting three feet away from me. Loudly. And he wasn't kidding. Which incident hurt worse?
In a society where ALL women, not just plus size, are inundated constantly with images of the ideal woman (and I promise you it's the skinny one), it's no wonder there is so much hate among women. Skinny hates fat; fat hates skinny. Hell, skinny hates skinny and fat hates fat. We are equal opportunity snarkers. What causes this trash talking? Are we insecure or jealous or self-loathing? What's the deal. The blogger insists that Kate Upton resembles a squishy brick and chides women for striving for the lazy, lardy look of Upton.
|Too bad my interpretation of "lazy, lardy" doesn't resemble this!|
Photo Credit: Sports Illustrated Online
So true, so true. We should not be jealous. There is enough hate in the world. Why do we choose to hate ourselves and others because of our bodies. Didn't we learn years ago that we are all the same on the inside? Doesn't it hurt a skinny girl to be called a "flat chested gypsy ho" (yes, I got called that in sixth grade- extra points for "Mean Girls" creativity) just as much as it hurt a plus-sized girl to be called a "fat cow"? Shouldn't we admire bodies instead of envy them? Shouldn't we accept bodies instead of hate them? This post was actually inspired by my friend Tricia who recently posted on Facebook:
I haven't always been accepting of my body but recently that has changed, I love my body and it's size exactly the way it is. And while I realize my pride in my body has led me to say hateful things about other body types(particularly skinny ie "That girl is too thin needs to eat something" or even big girls like me regretfully) I am stating now that this will happen no more! EVERYONE SHOULD LOVE THEIR BODIES NO MATTER THE SIZE OR SHAPE EQUALLY. We are all beautiful no matter how many times someone tells you you aren't.
She's 18 years old. Imagine if we could raise all of our girls to feel that way- not only about themselves, but about each other?! But to do this we must lead by example. We must be the change we want to see, right? Stop hating other women's bodies, and, most importantly, stop hating your own body. So start today- tell me: What do you love about your body?