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Friday, July 6, 2012

What. The. (38) F!


 Let me tell you a story about a flat-chested girl. This girl insisted on wearing a bra in 7th and 8th grade because she had to change in front of other girls for gym class, but she had no need for a bra. In fact, after gym, she would go to the bathroom and pull her bra off, stuff it into her book bag, and pray she didn't accidentally pull it out in front of anyone (only happened once and I, I mean SHE, is surprised she survived it). That girl longed for boobs, watching Punky Brewster ("Henry, I'm getting boobs!") and reading Are You There God, It's Me Margaret ("I must, I must, I must increase my bust!).


This girl eventually resigned herself to a life of A cups, but then something happened. She went to college and starting eating fast food and she got boobs- a wonderful set of Bs- Life was good! After that eventually she got pregnant, and her beautiful Bs blossomed to Cs. Cool, she thought. After pregnancy her Cs increased to Ds. And as the weight slowly crept on over the years, so indeed did her bust. It was so subtle, she didn't even notice. Or maybe she was in denial.


She noticed when wearing t-shirts that she had the dreaded "double boob" (NOT my boobs!) effect going on- her cup literally runneth over, so she adjusted the straps. She is an educated woman. She knows that like 75% of women wear the wrong bra size, but not her! One day when driving, she noticed her bra kept digging into her forearm and her side causing quite a bit of discomfort. This was the final straw. It was time for a new bra.  I swore I'd never write in third person, but it's kinda uncomfortable to write a post about my own breasts. I mean, I have before, but it was light-hearted. This on the other hand (boob) is serious. I decided to go bra shopping, but I drove past Victoria's Secret and headed for a specialty bra shop here in town- The Fitting Touch. I don't need for my breasts to be two cups larger. I don't need sexy cleavage. I want these suckers locked and loaded.



Lots of places offer bra fittings, and I've had several throughout my life. They are simple and painless- besides being in a bra in front of another woman who is in way better shape than you. They are experts. You can measure yourself at home (and here's a very thorough link from Her Room's website), but it involves way more math than I want to deal with. Leave it to the experts.I sometimes struggle with admitting that I am officially "plus-sized" but when she brought that first batch of bras for me to try on; of course, I immediately checked the tag. "Oh, no, no, no," I argued. "This is way too big! I wear a 38 D." She was very nice, but turned me to face to mirror and pointed out all the boob spillage going on in my current bra and said, "See all that breast tissue outside of the cup? You need a bigger cup." So I strapped on a 38 F (or 38 DDD, depending on the brand), and you know what? It fit way better than my other bra. 


Again NOT my boobs, but a pretty fair representation of what was going on. See all that
breast tissue hanging out the sides and top? Yeah, not supposed to happen!
photo : http://foreveryourslingerie.ca/before-and-after/
So, now, I should have you sufficiently concerned that you too are wearing the wrong bra size. But do you need more proof? Here are some quick tips to help you determine if it's time to go shopping!



  • If your cups runneth over, it’s time to go up a cup size.
  • If your cups dimple, it’s time to go down a cup size.
  • If you have the dreaded back fat, you probably think your bra is too tight, but you’re wrong—your bra is too big. Wearing the bra lower on your back with a smaller band size will completely eliminate the back fat.
  • If your strap falls down, that means your bra band is riding up and you probably need to go down a band size. 
  • If you can see breast tissue being pushed out over the top of the cups, you need a larger cup size. All breast tissue should be contained with the cup of the bra.
  • If the bra band rides up in the back, you need a smaller band size.
  • If the center of your bra does not lie flat against your breast bone, then you need to buy a larger cup.


49 comments:

Hsboschke30 said...

Haha - you are too funny! And you're saying there's hope for me??? :)

XO
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Ute said...

Great post, Katie! I was also flat-chested as a teenager and couldn't believe that I really would need a 34 F. Then it was time to buy a special bra for my wedding. This day 10 years ago had changed my life. Every woman looks so much better with the right bra. I sometimes feel like a missionary when telling my friends to rethink their bra size. But once they did they are very grateful. So I hope many of your readers will go bra-shopping now!

Feathers & Freckles said...

I'm so glad you went in and are now wearing the right size! Sounds like it was getting really uncomfortable. Those tips were really informative - I had no idea that falling straps meant needing to go down a band size but it makes perfect sense. I just always thought I had to tighten the straps.

Ugh, and of course men don't have to deal with any of this! (Though some of them probably should...)

Courtney_L said...

I feel your pain on the sticker/tag shock. A couple of years ago, I went in for my first bra fitting. I had been wearing a 38DD but had gained some weight. I figured I would need to go up a cup size. Turns out, I was wearing the wrong band size. I left the store with 36G bras. (When you go up a cup size and down a band size, you are essentially going up 2 cup sizes.) I was stunned. But you know what? These bras fit, and were much more comfortable. Also, by wearing a bra that fit, I looked better in all of my clothes. People kept asking me if I had lost weight (which I guess is code for "you look really nice today, and I don't know why" when one hasn't made an obvious change to her hairstyle.)

Kristian said...

An informative post. Glad you went in.

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Hannah @ Tattoos and Pearls said...

I loved this post (but what is new, I love all of your posts!). First off, I don't know that I have ever had a bra fit my correctly. I loathe bra shopping and I hate bras and I am never comfortable in them. They are always falling down- not the straps but the actual bra rides too low- and then the cups are always puckering. Maybe I need a smaller size? But I am not sure?!
Your boobs do look much nicer in the new bras girl. I am not inspired to figure out my own boob issues!

Hannah Tattoos and Pearls

Annie said...

Ahh that sounded like me in the beginning...praying for boobs! Unfortunately, my prayers were never answered like yours were :) Glad you got a great new bra!

Annie
The Other Side of Gray

Tashia G. said...

Hooray for boobs and bras that fit! I spent one summer working at a Victoria's secret, and I gotta say I still love their bras, just not the "sexy" ones. I go for the full coverage cotton demi because I like the support and shaping without the spillage. However, I need to get refitted because I've been getting some rubbing/ indentation from underwire underneath my boobs and I've been thinking of trying a different place.

Sharon S said...

Haha this is a post I think every woman can relate too, no matter how big or small her boobs are! I got measured once a while ago and they told me my bra size was MUCH smaller than what I was wearing. The bra they gave me didn't actually fit, so I think I'll need to go for a second opinion! I'm probably still wearing the wrong size!

-Sharon
The Tiny Heart

Alice said...

Funnily enough I was the complete opposite at school, I got my first bra at 11 and was already a 34D and I hated it. I did everything I could to hide my boobs, including taping them down on days I didn't have PE. Naturally as soon as I got used to my breasts in my early twenties they went and changed again, just in the past year I've gained some weight, gone up to an F cup then lost it again and now I have absolutely no idea. Anyway, I think I've just told you far too much about my chest. Thanks for the reminder that I should go get measured again though, I've been uncomfortable in my bras for nearly a month now and keep putting it off. Great post, and (in the non-creepiest way possible) you're boobs look great in that last photo xo

Catie said...

Wow, the difference is amazing. You have an obvious waistline now and your boobs look fantastic, Katie! ; ) I need to go for a proper bra fitting. I know I need a 32, but I always end up with a 34 because I don't usually buy my bras at a lingerie store. My problem is, I don't like spending more than $20 for a bra and I know a couple of good ones would be expensive. I may have to put that on my list of things to do this summer. Thanks for the motivation!!! Have a great weekend! =)

Selah said...

I currently wear a 36H(!) and I've always been busty. I got my first bra at 8 years old and it was a B cup. Big boobs at a young age are not fun. They scare the boys away and attract attention from pervy older guys.
I finally got my first real bra fitting almost 4 years ago. It was right after my daughter was born and I went to a lactation center for a nursing bra. The ladies there were super sweet and helpful.
Now I do the online thing with www.lindasonline.com It's great because you can call and get help figuring out the measurements/math. A great fitting bra is a must for every woman! Thanks for all the great info.
The funniest bra fitting story I've ever heard can be found here:
http://singzion.blogspot.com/2011/11/do-you-want-to-know-secret.html
Check it out!

Colleen Rust said...

This is such an amazing post! Finding bras that fit is such a struggle for any woman. I know exactly how you feel going past Victoria's Secret. At a DDD the last thing I want to do is add two cup sizes! I recently stumbled upon Lane Bryants specialty bra store and had great sucess. For any woman with a large set of girls, plus-size or not, the store had a great selection and good prices! The after pictures of yours show such a huge difference. I agree, it is good to have them "locked and loaded"!

Colleen
daybydaydarling.blogspot.com

Always Maylee said...

I am just loving your posts this week. A woman of confidence! I have the complete opposite problem as you... I don't think it's possible to find a smaller cup size than what I currently have, haha. :) Hope you have a wonderful weekend Katie!

xo, Yi-chia

Carrie said...

Fantastic post! I was wearing a strapless bra the other day that kept creeping down, down, down -- and that made me think that I should go for a fitting one of these days. Getting a new set of bras won't be cheap, but since they're worn so much ... I will just have to think of it as an investment. :)

Misty Tumlin Kerns said...

LOVE IT!!!! I have always had my issues with my boobs. I was in a B cup by the time I was in the 5th grade (so 10 years old), and a C by the time I was in the 6th grade (11 year old). Now I'm a DD, but really think I am larger. Well, after reading your post, I know I am larger and wearing the wrong size. I really need to get a fitting as well. Your "girls" are looking great in the new bra! :)

D'Rae said...

I was just sized last week! I went from a 38C (Vickie's sized me) to a 36DD!!!! What!!!

Selah said...

Ach! Just re-measured because this post reminded me that I need new bras. I am now a 36J! This is getting ridiculous!

isabella eclairesova said...

wow this is amazing! photos are pretty good :)

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Atthepinkofperfection said...

It's so funny that you posted this, I just bought new bras last weekend and was surprised that I was no longer a C. Hubs was with me and told me that everyone knows I'm a D except myself. Ha! I bought a 38D and I'm so happy!

And yes, locked and loaded is the way to go! You can see the difference in your pics, good investment!

Chris Williams said...

From one Boobilicious babe to another I feel you! Years ago (when my size was actually smaller) I cried when they told me what sizes needed. I was devastated and my younger self was a bit dramatic. Now I don't care so much what size I have to where (which is bigger than when I had the breakdown) as long as these babies are well supported and all in place!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

It's still a little shocking to realize you are in a size you never knew existed, but you are right- I'd rather look good and be in the correct size. Vanity sizing in bras now??

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Good bras are definitely a sound investment- I knew I needed some because I was frustrated with some of my OOTD photos. You gotta start with a good foundation! Glad you got resized :)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Yeah! You go, girl! I am officially too big for Vickie's- not sure how I feel about that! :/

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I remember you having big boobs. While I can't speak from experience, I had friends like that in elementary school, and it was DEFINITELY tough for them. Kids can be cruel. Time to go shopping, Misty! Treat yourself, Momma!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

They are expensive, but you are right- they are an investment. I decided that If I'm willing to spend $40-60 on a dress I can wear a couple of times a month, then I should be willing to do the same for something I wear every day!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

It's definitely a "the grass is always greener" situation. I wish I could give you half of mine! Then we could both be perfect Cs!!!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I ended up going to Lane Bryant (great sale right now- Buy 2, get 2!!) and while the customer service at my store SUCKED, the selection was great. I don't understand this obsession with big boobs. I mean I know part of my not understanding is because I have them, but I don't ever want to see a push-up bra again!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Yes, that's exactly how I felt the last time I went to Victoria's Secret. All the padding- WHY?!?!
I had lots of early bloomer friends, and I didn't envy them- I saw the way they were treated because of it, and it was terrible :(

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Lane Bryant is having an AWESOME sale- buy 2, get 2 FREE! Can't beat it!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I am kinda embarrassed that I waited so long, being a plus size blogger and all. It's one of those things I knew I needed to do, and totally didn't want to. Like the GYN appointment I have next week!

I completely understand not wanting to spend that much money on bras, and it's tough when you have a "specialty size"!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

You can never tell me too much about your boobs, Alice ;) I hope if I lose a little weight, they will decrease a little- of course, seeing as how I just dropped a ton of money on new bras, I kinda don't want to do that!

And thank you for the totally non-creepy comment on the boobs!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I think a "second opinion" is important, as well as trying on different styles of bras. I think every brand and style fits differently. That's why I hate bra shopping! I hate trying crap on!!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Now that I've officially grown out of Victoria's Secret, I can complain I guess. I always bought the full coverage bras too. Hell, I don't need any extra help. I have a few that I think will still fit, kinda as a push up, or under lower cut shirts, since my new over-the-shoulder boulder holders are cut way higher!!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Wish we could arrange an operation and I could donate some to you! ;)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Sounds like you do need a smaller size. I agree that bra shopping sucks (I hate trying crap on in tiny, overheated, unflattering dressing rooms), but I think if you make one trip and get help from a "pro" the you will know what to look for on your own!

Do it!!! And update me :)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Me too. It was long overdue!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

HAHA! I agree- that's the go to when you can't quite put your finger on what's different ;) Literally!

I've seen enough What Not to Wear to know that I need to have a proper bra fitting, but I wasn't looking forward to it. However, you are right, I look so much better in clothes now!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Bringing back "The Bro"! Men always get the best end of the deal (that's what she said). I wish you could have seen me. Flapping my arms around in the dressing room, seeing if the bra was going to rub or pinch. the girl was like, :Are you okay?" I said, "Everyone doesn't do the funky chicken when trying on bras?"

Also, not funny if you don't remember the funky chicken!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I definitely feel like a missionary! Know your boobs! Get a new bra! We should shout it from the roof-tops, Ute!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

It's never too late to "bloom" ;)

tori said...

Ha ha, your stories crack me up Katie! I too felt the pain of small boobies when I was younger, and sadly I still have not gotten my boobs. I live with an A cup :/ This is a really great tip though!

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Shannon Fox said...

38H
Tell me that didn't knock me over.
I was like, what the what???
I know they are big, but serious?
I don't look that huge though, honest.

Nothing like a good fitting bra though =))))
And I found some pretty ones on ebay that I order from the UK.

Great post!!

lovelovefashion said...

i have boobies too, and over the years grew with me and have had a love/hate relationship with bras, i like what they make them look like - proud and generous (can't believe i said that!!!) but find them uncomfortable - i am a recent convert to 'the slip' a bra contained in the fitted slip and it is so liberating - curve definition, contained boobs and vava voom - foundation garments are soo important - thanks for talking about this x

Anthea said...

nice sharing:) many ladies have no clear idea of what is a well-fitted bra <3
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Kristin said...

I HATE bra shopping. I usually get mine at Lane Bryant where the girls who fit you are plus sized too! LOL But my problem is that one boob is a whole cup size bigger than the other. I can't win!!

Savannah said...

Is the Fitting Touch the bra shop at the Summit? I need to get fitted, I think I am wearing the wrong size. My left boob is bigger than my right boob. Sometime I think my boobs are too small for my body size, but that would mean they would be much bigger and I am happy with my boob size but not so much with my body size.

Tganiere said...

1. I LOVE your blog:)
2. I too was once..let's say "braless"...even stuffed a few times..ok lots:) until I did the unmentionable, um, yellow kleenex & white bra..white shirt...yeah you can picture it...then grew a bit, grew a ton...had 4 babies..and well I'm very "full"...but then again I'm "full" all over!
3. Thanks for the great info on bras

Janna said...

hahaha, this post made me laugh. The "I must, I must, I must increase my bust" brought back memories of my younger days! Very amusing and informative!

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