Friday, September 21, 2012

On Aging and Birthdays

Today is my birthday. Today I turned 31. Today I struggle with the fact that I am not struggling with my age. 31 doesn't bother me. 30 didn't bother me. On our way to my early birthday dinner last weekend, Curtis and I discussed aging and getting older. He says I'm not bothered by my age because I don't look 30 (whatever that means). Spending the majority of my days with 15-year-olds could make me insecure. I used to chide them when they would ask how old I was, but now I tell them just to see their reaction. They rarely believe me.

Luna Lace Dress - Kiyonna Blogger Brigade
Heels- Forever 21

I find it interesting we spend the younger years of our lives desperate to look older, and then the rest of our lives vainly trying to look younger. It seems unfair. Do I feel a thrill every time a student says, "You look like you are 20!"? Of course, but I also realize that at some point I am going to say I'm 40 and I will look 30 (hopefully) or I am 50 and look 40. At some point I will no longer be young to my students.  How many more years can I milk it? When do you HAVE to be old? And don't say "You are only as old as you feel" or "Age is only a number" because I don't believe it.  At some point I will have to stop wearing raspberry party dresses, right? 

I hope not


What does it really mean to "act your age"? 


Will the age police show up?


Will I wake up and know, "Now I am grown up!"?


66 comments:

Meghan Mee said...

happy birthday girl! u look great in that lace and pink!


XO Meghancitrusrefreshingfashion.blogspot.com

Savannah said...

Happy birthday! Love that dress. I want the blue one, but I don't have the money :(

Feathers & Freckles said...

Happy Birthday! :) I agree, we spend our entire childhood wishing we were old enough to drive, to drink, to vote... then when we "grow up" we want to look young and fresh. Kevin and I get carded everywhere we go (we've even been asked for a second form of ID), and I always tell him how much it annoys me. He brought up a good point - once they STOP asking, that's when I'll be really annoyed and/or sad :D Hope you have an amazing day and weekend!!

sarahrr123 said...

First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Second, I hear ya on the birthday thing. I am 37 and am usually mistaken for late 20s. I have three teenagers and people are usually shocked when I introduce them as my children. Anyway, I was in a car accident when I turned 29. It was so bad that I had to learn to walk again, and police and EMT were shocked to find me alive in the vehicle. So when my 30th rolled around afterwards, I couldn't be depressed...was so stinkin' happy to be alive, to be able to raise my children, was such a huge blessing to me. I love birthdays, love to celebrate them! My husband is going to be 40 this year and we are having a huge party. When I turn 40, I'd love to spend my special day on a cruise or something. NEVER stop wearing raspberry party dresses...ever!
Sarah R from www.fillupyourmug.blogspot.com

Annie said...

I don't think you will ever be to old to wear raspberry party dresses - I LOVE it! I'm terrified of getting older...so I wish I had your outlook Katie!


Annie
The Other Side of Gray

Sharon S said...

Happy birthday, Katie!! You look so pretty in the lace dress! I'll be 30 next year which I have to admit terrifies me. But at the same time I HATE when people tell me I look young. I was at the doctor last week and he said "you look 11." I almost punched him.

-Sharon
The Tiny Heart
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Always Maylee said...

Happy birthday and you look so gorgeous in this dress! Aging is something that I've been struggling with. I know I look a lot younger than I am... although I still get carded at the movies which is just ridiculous to me. And for the most part, I don't feel old. However, the stresses of 'adulthood' does get to me sometimes and that's when I really get anxious about aging. BUT, I don't think there is a time when party dresses should not be worn. :)


xo, Yi-chia
Always Maylee

elena said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY KATIE!!!!!!!!!! Wish you all the best!!!! And I totally agree with your husband, with your adorable smile you'll never look older than 25
XO
Elena
http://dcinstyle.com/blog/

Leighleigh Uzumaki said...

Yup. You will wake up and put on slippers and a smoking jacket, never take them off, and chase kids off your lawn with brooms.

ute said...

Happy Birthday, Katie! I'm 33 and working at the University keeps me and my mind young. I struggled with turning 30, but I recognized that I feel so much better now than in my early twenties. And do I feel grown up? No, and I doubt I will grow up ever. Btw, the dress is amazing!!!!

Mary said...

Never stop wearing raspberry party dresses! You look fabulous! Happy birthday!

kimberley kramer said...

You look beautiful, fresh and happy. Happy birthday!

Miranda said...

Happy birthday Katie! You look so beautiful! I love your hair like that, it's such a classic glamour girl look! And the pink lace dress is so cute!

Niki said...

Oh my word. I love, love, love, love that dress! :D

Niki

http://www.nikis-notebook.blogspot.com

Pamela said...

Thirty didn't bother me because I looked twenty as well. Forty didn't bother me because I looked 25 still. But I'm almost 43 now and suddenly I'm seeing myself as old. I still look a lot younger than I am, but my face and body have aged so I don't look like ME anymore. I've been struggling with it lately. :-(

grownandcurvywoman said...

Happy Birthday! The dress is wonderful on you! Such a fun color!

Colleen P. said...

I'll be 46 next March, and no one ever believes me when I tell them my age either! However, I was nearly 30 before I stopped getting carded for ID, so maybe I just got lucky in the genetic lottery. I seriously don't think one ever feels "grown up"-I know I don't. Inside I still feel like a teenager sometimes! I still haven't figured out how to "act my age" because I'm really not entirely certain what my age is supposed to act like. You never have to stop wearing raspberry party dresses if you don't want to, you can wear whatever you like. That is a definite perk of being a "grown-up"! At some point, though, you'll probably decide that certain styles simply do not appeal to you any longer and you'll transition to other things. It's really not a sudden shift in thinking, as a general rule, you just find that certain things don't appeal the way they once did, and you move on to other things.

Colleen P. said...

I will add that my face is starting to show my age...but ya know, I kinda like it. I've got some eye lines, some laugh lines, the lips aren't as taut and firm...but there is a definite appeal nonetheless. I like the way my face is aging, I look like I laughed a lot!

Catie said...

Happy, Happy Birthday Katie!! =) Hope your kids treat/treated you well today! That dress is soo cute, love the color. You look great and I wouldn't have thought you were 31.

I have to say aging doesn't really bother me either. I'll be 35 in November and I'm not worried about it at all! I guess it does help that my 14 year old stepdaughter and her friends say I look 26 and that my hubby is 48, I'll always be the younger wife, but aging just doesn't bother me. I mean, we all get older and can't do anything to stop it. Why stress about it, right?

~ Catie

Lynne DeVenny said...

Happy, happy birthday, Katie! That is an incredibly beautiful special occasion dress.

I'll be 50 next year. Aging itself doesn't bother me, but there are definitely physical changes that are new - and um, interesting...lol.

Hailey said...

First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I don't feel I look my age or act it necessarily. It is hard to wade through all of those emotions. I see my peers doing all of these grown up things and think "they shouldn't be doing that yet." I don't know...growing up is weird.
I say, Be Happy. Have fun. Be You. And NEVER STOP wearing raspberry party dresses!

Selah said...

Happy Birthday Katie! I hope you're having a great day.

When I turned 30 I joked about how awful it was, especially since I couldn't drink to dull the pain (I was 8 months pregnant at the time). But really, it didn't bug me and the 4 birthdays since haven't bothered me either.

The only birthday that has really ever bothered me was 25. I had a genuine quarter-life crisis, complete with crying meltdown, because I wasn't where I thought I would be in life. But I am now, and I'm very content. Maybe that's why aging doesn't bother you? Maybe you're just happy!

My husband is convinced that the reason people think 40 is old is because generations of women have lied about their age. So, we've grown up thinking 40 looks old, because what we were told was 40 was really 55 or 60!

REBECCA said...

Just stop thinking about it Katie (take it from me)...HAVE A BIRTHDAY AS LOVELY AS YOU!!


REBECCA
www.redtagchiclosangeles.com

Cheri'z Angel said...

Happy birthday! and just for the record, I don't think you ever have to stop wearing raspberry party dresses. You look fab.
http://cherizangelandstyleluvin.blogspot.com/2012/09/cultured-in-cherry-blossom.html

Tashia G. said...

You're never too old for a pretty pink party dress on your birthday :) Hope you had an awesome day!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you! It was an awesome day :)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Good! That makes me happy!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Good idea :)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I agree with EVERYTHING you are saying here! 28 was my worst birthday, and for very similar reasons, now I just embrace. I also think there's a lot of truth to your husband's idea. If we'd stop lying then we wouldn't have such a skewed idea!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thanks, Hailey! It is definitely an emotional wading pool ;)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I think when that starts happening (the physical aging) then I will be more bothered, I mean I know it's going to happen, but I'm not looking forward to it!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

My students were really great. I LOVE working on my birthday and being the center of attention (Terrible, I know!!)! It definnitely helps to look young and to be the younger spouse :)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Yes, I definitely feel like a teen a lot. I accredit it to the massive amount of time I spend with teens. And I love the idea that being a grown-up means you have the freedom to do whatever you want! Perfect :)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you so much!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

That's what I think will happen to me as well :( Again I think we are our toughest critics. I bet everyone else still thinks you are a total hottie!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you, Niki!!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you! I really liked the front of it, and it kept my annoying bangs out of my face!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you, Kimberly!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

That's what I was hoping for!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I definitely am more confident and self-assured than I was. If that's a side effect of getting old, then bring it on!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Oh, no!!! I did that this morning ;)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you, Elena. And seriously, my orthodontist said the SAME exact thing. She said I have big teeth that will keep my face fuller once I get old and start losing muscle tone. Isn't that crazy!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you, Yi-chia! That's exactly how I feel!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

See I would have never thought you were 29. You definitely look younger. Not 11 though ;)

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I think you will have my outlook! I don't see you struggling at all. Seriously!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

I love this story. You are right! Every age is a celebration of living life and having that opportunity!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Wow! A second form? Come on, people! I got carded last Saturday when we ate out for my birthday, and then the girl carded Curtis- I mean really?!?!? He looks 40- in a distinguished, handsome way of course!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you Savannah! The blue is beautiful- but I completely understand cost being the issue!

Hems for Her, a.k.a. Katie said...

Thank you, Meghan!! :)

Marissa said...

I am not looking forward to the day that I wake up and realize that I am a grown up...sigh
Guess I better milk my youth while I can huh?!


Happy Birthday bliend, you look fab in your raspberry dress :)

Crystal said...

HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! My goodness, you look so beautiful in that dress! Wow! It's like it was made for you!
For me, 30 was a breeze but 31 was a bit of a reality check. Now that i'm 35? Bring it on. :)
www.talesfromthefatside.org

Sarah Welsch said...

Being 30, and turning 31 in two weeks, doesn't bother me, either! That MAY be because I only look like I am 22 right now. I went into my high school a year ago to get my shot records and I got stopped in the hallway to ask where my id was! I love it.

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lovelovefashion said...

happy birthday! and good God! that dress will never have a shelf life, age is a funny old thing - i tend not to think about being grown up (i'm 43 haha) unless i'm doing grown up things - today i ordered my new kitchen, painted the front garden walls and wall papered a feature wall in my bedroom, so i feel very grown up today, other than that i would much rather be having fun x sandra

Rhonda said...

I loved 30. And 35. I'm 18 months from 40 and can't wait! I finally feel old enough to be me; does that make sense?? 25 was a rough birthday; now they are just too much fun.

Loving your raspberry dress! Hope you have a fabulous birthday.

alessia said...

sooo lovely!!!


TheChicolat

Bella said...

Lady, thirty is the new twenty! And forty is the new thirty! (That one was for my benefit! hee hee! I hope you had a wonderful birthday. This dress is simply stunning and you look beautiful! Methinks that no age police is going to be arresting you any time soon. I'm with your students--you don't look a day over twenty! Happy belated birthday! :)

Hanna said...

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Hannah said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, you beautiful 31 year old.

I have had these exact same thoughts lately. I can't say I have any wisdom, but I do understand completely.

You look so totally awesome in this dress, by the way. Never stop wearing pretty party dresses :)

larissabruin said...

Lovely style.
xo.From hats to heelswww.fromhatstoheels.com

Jessica said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY weekend lady! You look FAB-ulous. I hope that you never have to stop wearing raspberry party dresses. You do have to get older, but you never have to be OLD!
xx


Here&Now

Jenny Lauren said...

Ha ha, HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!! I hope you had a wonderful birthday weekend!! You truly look stunning in that gorgeous pink lace dress...absolutely perfect for your birthday. I completely agree with you. I turned 32 last week but really don't feel old. It could be because I too look way younger than my age, or it could be because I seem to enjoy life more and more as I age. I would NEVER go back to being a teenager or even to being in my twenties. Life just gets better as you get older.


xo Jennywww.crazystylelove.com

Katha Strophe said...

Happy belated birthday to you!

You look stunning, I love that gorgeous lace dress on you! I think it's fantastic that your age doesn't bother you at all, I hope it will be the same for me :)

Shelley B said...

Never stop wearing raspberry party dresses! That's pretty much my philosophy. The second you think "oh I'm too old for fun clothes", your age has won. As long as you're not wearing tweenage hooker clothes or something.

I'm turning 30 this year, and I'm stoked. I think it's a great excuse for an awesome party.

Rock out with your bad self, and keep being awesome. Happy birthday!!

xoxo

Shelley B said...

Never stop wearing raspberry party dresses! That's pretty much my philosophy. The second you think "oh I'm too old for fun clothes", your age has won. As long as you're not wearing tweenage hooker clothes or something.

I'm turning 30 this year, and I'm stoked. I think it's a great excuse for an awesome party.

Rock out with your bad self, and keep being awesome. Happy birthday!!

xoxo

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